Hi, I'm Francine Kaye,

the UK's Leading Relationship Coach

I help people make relationships work...

.....together or apart.

Speak to me on 07931338653

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Mend Your Marriage

Finding your way back to each other:

You still love each other, and yet life together has become tense and difficult. Small things turn into big rows, conversations go in circles, and it can start to feel easier to keep quiet than risk another blow-up.

Over time, it can begin to look like this:

• You find yourselves arguing about the same things again and again.

• One of you feels criticised, while the other feels alone. 

• You miss each other, but can’t seem to get through.

• Home starts to feel like a place where you’re constantly watching what you say.

Even the good moments can feel fragile, as though one wrong word might undo them. What’s usually needed at this point isn’t more effort, but a new way of understanding what’s really driving the repeating pattern between you.

Mend Your Marriage is for couples who want to find their way back to each other by understanding what keeps pulling them apart.

What’s really going on?

Couples often get caught in the same arguments about everyday life, work pressures, parenting, money, shared responsibilities, extended family, intimacy, time together and time apart, and how things are said rather than what’s meant.

Those issues matter, but they’re rarely the heart of the problem.

Underneath are old fears, old hurts, and the automatic reactions they trigger. When those reactions take over, you stop hearing each other properly and start protecting yourselves instead. That’s when conflict becomes repetitive, confusing, and exhausting. This approach helps you recognise those triggers and patterns as they’re happening, so you can respond differently and begin to find your way back to each other.

How we work together:

We start by focusing on what’s really driving the reactions between you, not just what you argue about, but what those moments mean to each of you underneath. You then learn a specific dialogue process that helps you slow things down, listen more carefully, and speak in a way your partner can actually take in.

As the pattern begins to loosen, you start to make different choices day to day, with more ease, more honesty, and far less walking on eggshells.

Ways for us to work together:

As a Couple:

We usually begin with individual sessions so I can understand each of you and how you experience the relationship. This is followed by supported joint sessions, where you practise the dialogue process and apply it to the real issues between you.

Individually:

Sometimes the work can begin on one side, without it staying one-sided. Starting on your own can bring clarity about your reactions, needs, and choices, and often shifts the dynamic in ways you didn’t expect. You’ll learn the same understanding and tools, and be in a stronger position to influence the relationship and decide what feels right for you.

A note about my approach:

I bring over 25 years’ experience as a relationship and couples coach, with training in approaches including Imago, attachment-based work, nervous-system-informed practice, and mediation. My background in mediation means I’m able to hold difficult conversations with balance, fairness, and clarity, even when emotions are high.

Most importantly, I don’t see couples as broken. I see couples as stuck - and I help you get unstuck.