You know the kinds of triggers:
You never do this... You always do that...
You always walk past things that I've left on the stairs!
You never fill up the car; you leave it on empty.
It's always me who has to organise everything, or nothing would ever happen.
You never make my tea the way you know I like it.
Do any of these resonate with you?
Feeling like you are not on the same page?
Living like housemates, not lovers?
Feeling lonely and misunderstood?
Not feeling like friends anymore?
Always meeting their needs without them meeting yours?
Feeling like your partner does not have your back?
Not feeling emotionally supported?
Unable to trust your partner?
Not wanting sex because there's built-up resentment?
Imagine feeling safe enough to talk about anything, without being shut down or provoking a fight......
What about having a better understanding of your partner, so you can actually appreciative their perspective?
If this is what you want, learning how to love each other the way you each want to be loved will deepen your emotional connection and create a more joyful and loving relationship.
And, once you achieve all of this, the icing on the cake is you're going to start fancying each other again!
Guess What? You can stop imagining, because it is ALL possible.
The question is will you take this opportunity to
Make Your Relationship Work?
I take couples on a journey of self-discovery and deep mutual understanding, reigniting their love and strengthening their connection.
to love each other completely
Couples who are living together and discovering who the other person really is which may not align
so easily.
Couples who have just had children and are finding it hard to stay connected to each other. Couples in crisis: financial, health, cheating and affairs. Couples who don't know if they should stay or leave.
For couple who have essentially being staying together for the children, when your children are old enough to handle separation it can become an attractive proposition - let''s work through this to make sure you're making the right decision - whether that's to stay together or to separate with dignity.
Couples who have just had children and are finding it hard to stay connected to each other. Couples in crisis: financial, health, cheating and affairs. Couples who don't know if they should stay or leave.
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At the end of our sessions with you, I had total clarity, I understood my partner and I believe he me too, far more than we ever had in the past. You provided us with some solid tools to work with and we certainly did test these when we had a blip. We were now equipped with a higher level of thinking, not just in our relationship but in every other aspect of our life.
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The amazing thing about you Francine is how quickly you were able to understand us both and work out why we behaved the way we did with each other. I felt completely safe and at ease with you and my partner who is a very private man, you were able to get him to open up completely with the greatest of ease. I would look forward to your sessions each week. To me you were our life line.
Become aware of how you and your partner trigger pain in each other
How they reached your current point together
What has caused changes that are experiencing
How and why these things happened and/or are still happening
How they can create a sustainable loving relationship
Become aware of how you and your partner trigger pain in each other
Learn a proven method to help you talk about this pain
Become free of old reactive ways
Feel safe with each other
Better understand, appreciate and accept each other
Help each other to grow
Re-learn how to give and receive the love you want from each other
First of all the way it is structured, with four hours over two sessions of individual work and 4 x 2 hour joint sessions and a maintenance programme.
All sessions are recorded by them so it doubles the time of the programme. The recordings are theirs for life. Their learning is exponentially leveraged by watching themselves back.
You only hear 20% of any sessions in a room with no video and thats based on selective memory. Videoing captures every nuance. I am arguably the most experienced, intuitive and powerful relationship coach in the UK and arguably elsewhere.
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Francine, again I will reiterate you were truly our life line and I would not hesitate at all to recommend you to anybody. You have a completely different approach when you counsel. Your energy, your empathy, your knowledge, your structured approach truly differentiates you from the rest.
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Francine, you were recommended to me by a good friend of mine. She was certain you would be able to help us. My relationship with my partner was crumbling and despite trying many things to stop us from walking away from each other, nothing seemed to be working. The more we tried the worse it got. In fact when we came to see you, we had very little communication with each other for a month prior to meeting you. You were our last hope and you came highly recommended.
I've been helping couples for over 20 years now, and I get how tough it can be. I understand how these challenges can really affect you and your relationship.
My mission is to give you both the essential skills and tools you need to successfully transform your relationship. With profound understanding of self and each other, I will guide you to build stronger connections and give you what it takes to create a happy, loving and meaningful relationship
Today I saved another relationship. Yes, I know that’s what I do but the enormity of helping a couple to rebuild their relationship never ever fails to humble and inspire me. For two people to let me in to their lives and allow me to take them on a journey...
to discover their most vulnerable self and let that self be known, because they so much want to save their marriage is a privilege I do not take for granted.
Sometimes couples are not sure that their marriage or long-term relationship can be saved. As we begin our work together and we peel away the layers that have become their way of seeing the world, they get to see the role they have played in their relationship. When they see this, its like a light is turned on. They get to understand how they have at least part responsibility in they way their relationship looks right now.
‘It takes two’ may be a worn out cliché but it still applies to every relationship. Even if you are sure that it is not your behaviour that is at fault, it’s really impossible that your behaviour has not, in part, contributed to your situation. My job is to help you understand that contribution, not to attribute blame on either of you, just because if you can understand how your way of the seeing the world has been in opposition with the way your partner sees the world, you have a whole different possibility going forward.
Are you willing to see the world through their eyes and move towards a compassionate understanding of their position, or do you want to hold on to being right about how wrong they are and risk ending your relationship? If you take that path without fully understanding what went wrong and why, you are much more likely to repeat the same patterns in the next relationship until one day, generally after quite a few painful experiences, you finally understand how the role you play impacts your partner.
Quite simply most marriages and long-term relationships have an exceptionally good chance of being saved if the two people are willing to look at their own roles and take part responsibility for its breakdown. Then with the right skills and strategies that I will show you, it’s easy to put it back together again.
Before you throw in the towel, just consider that there could be a way that your relationship could be saved. If you are willing to suspend your belief, email me at [email protected] You have nothing to lose and absolutely everything to gain.
Let me help you to save your relationship or marriage just like the one I saved today.
From my heart to yours,
Francine x
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